"You do not need to know precisely what is happening, or exactly where it is all going. What you need is to recognize the possibilities and challenges offered by the present moment, and to embrace them with courage, faith, and hope."
A few years ago when I was struggling to conceive and really sick of the struggle I wrote these words, “It is better to make peace with defeat than to continue hoping in vain”.
Now, many years later, that disillusionment and anguish I felt at the time, has faded and I have two healthy, beautiful children. I am grateful that painful longing of an empty womb is a distant memory.
We all have circumstances in our lives where we have been hoping for a particular outcome and may now be reaching the end of our tether. It may take the form of a relationship or situation where we keep hoping (sometimes in vain) for people/circumstances to change. There are also dreams and goals that you wish to achieve but may need a step up with, some support or help in getting there in order to achieve them. Certainly I could right a post about those sorts of situations and also about the time when one does have to accept people don’t change, circumstances do and a life is all about being honest with oneself and moving on. But that is not this post.
Recently I had a pleasant surprise when a situation I had given up on, worked out perfectly. So this post is not about giving up hope, it is about the importance of keeping on believing.
Believing in people we have wanted to stop making an effort with as they may never seem to reciprocate; believing in the power of prayer/focused attention to manifest what we want; believing in ourselves to have the power to make the changes necessary for our lives to blossom and the strength to see them through; believing in life to still have the ability to surprise us and reward us when we meet it openly, joyfully and with ease.
The things we have control over in our lives, we need to stop moaning about and go out there and make happen. The aspects of our lives or anything to do with other people, we can’t control, so here we need to surrender and trust, while still living in hope and visualising a positive outcome. We can’t force things to be and we should not obsess over them either, but we can keep that inner flame of hope alive and flickering. When we have hope, we hold a world of possibilities in our hand.
One of the main rules of the Universe, is that what you focus on, you increase. Wherever your thoughts go, energy flows. Add some mental imagery and emotion to those thoughts and the energy quadruples. When you understand that fully, you realise how much power you actually do have.
So when you wish to create something positive in your life that you don’t have (eg a new job, a car, a friendship, that perfect pair of shoes - whatever floats your boat) you must focus on the successful result, not on what you lack. If you are wanting to focus on personal growth or health, to overcome an addiction or deep-seated issue, focus your attention on good health, happiness, fulfillment etc. Have an image in your mind of what that looks like and imagine what it feels like. Focus on that.
What you focus on your increase. That is how we change our reality. That is how we manifest our goals.
So a bit of hope as positive thought is good. Just stop there. Put it out there to the Universe/God/The Divine and then after the HOPE, make sure you TRUST, that it is being taken care of. You are not passive in this by any means. You must still make an effort, go out - open doors, talk to people, expand your viewpoint and be receptive to the flow of life, letting it do its thing, We do not always know when the right time will be, but believe the right time will come.
Have hope, my friends.
"Hope, O my soul, hope. You know neither the day nor the hour. Watch carefully, for everything passes quickly, even though your impatience turns a very short time into a long one."
-St. Teresa of Avila, The Way of Perfection